One of my favorite past times in recent times is watching musical videos, particularly the creatively shot ones with interesting story lines accompanying the songs and not the usual ones of nudely clad ladies in champagne popping scenes which are nothing but soft porn to me but I digress.
On one particular evening
while winding down from the day's work, I stumbled on the video of Banky W's
single (probably his latest) which featured my now favourite actress, Adesua
Etomi. But it was not the beautifully shot video and need I say clean lyrics
and by this I mean devoid of lewdness, that caught my attention as much as the
song title; Made For You. It reminded me of a conversation I had with a good
friend of mine early in the year. He said and I quote,
"God gives you a spouse
that will fit into every season of your life".
Basically, because He is
Omniscience knowing the end from the beginning, He goes straight into your
future and He picks for you if you let Him, a spouse that will fit into all the
changing seasons of your life. We as humans are limited in our capacity no
matter how smart we are as we cannot see beyond our noses. That girl you are so
in love with and you think you cannot wait to spend forever and a day more
with, may just be a girl fit for the summer of your life. Summer when
everything is all bright, sunny and times are good. When winter comes and all
is cold, windy and stormy, will she be able to weather that season with you?
That man you think the world
of and you worship the very ground he treads on, who happens to have stumbled
on you in the spring of your life when you are just starting out and your
flower is just blossoming, will he be there in autumn when the leaves start to
fall off and wither? Meanwhile because God is God, He knows the one that is
just made for you who you may start out with in spring but will be there all
through winter, summer and fall.
Trust me, oftentimes, this
person may not even look like who you want physically but I'll be the first to
tell you that longevity in marriage goes beyond just loving the physical
appearance. While the appearance may help the chemistry and sparks to fly, it
sure takes a lot more than that to hold your spouse down. When we go through
tough times like a financial crisis, been knocked down by a terminal illness
with death knocking loudly at the door, losing the ability to do something one
could effortlessly do before, what will matter to your spouse then is not your beauty,
six packs or vital statistics but rather your resilience, care, support and
sympathy above all else will be most required at that time. You wouldn't need a
soothsayer to tell you that you just lost out if someone less than physically
appealing as you happens along at that time and gives that which your spouse
needs.
Are you just going to be a spouse for
better times only and worse times you go AWOL? As long as man exists, life will
always be a continuous cycle of ups and downs, mountains and valleys. You need
a spouse that will be there for you at all times. You can only find this spouse
through the help of God. Argue what you will.
When you find him or her, then and only then have you found the one that
is just Made for You.
Think about it.
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