Where Are The Men? (2)

I first wrote about this topic here and  a sermon by my pastor on Sunday, set the tone for the second part of this message. I keep asking this question not because I choose to be unnecessarily hard on our men but then I am reminded of a saying my dear school principal, Mr S.O. Olawuyi bless his sweet soul, used to say to us repeatedly as school prefects  in secondary school,

"Uneasy is the head that wears the crown".

There are clearly spelt out roles God handed down to man in the very beginning. He gave to Adam a garden to tend and generally handed him down a blueprint to rule God's earth. Not like women too were not given the mandate of rule, subdue and dominate but He gave it first to man. Every man who is worth his onions and is of this gender not because his genitals confirm him to be so, ought to be in charge of every Eden God gives Him to tend. This Eden includes his family, his business and even His immediate society.

Alot of things are going wrong in our world because our men do not have a blue print for their lives. How many men have a vision for their family that they have been able to effectively communicate to their significant other? How many men have an idea of the kind of world they want to leave for their children and thus are already enlisting people to help them build it? How many men even have a sense of their worth? How many men are bridging the gap for the generation after them such that even if getting to the promised land does not happen in their lifetime, they would have built solid structures in place to ensure their children gets there? How many men are treating their wives right so their sons learns first hand how it is done? How many men are giving their daughters a good idea of the kind of man they should settle for? How many men are building generational wealth as opposed to subsistence living? How many men are leaving their footprints in the sands of time? How many men are living up to their responsibility as the head of the home  that they are as ordained by God; providing for and watching out for their family. Argue what you will but it is completely an anomaly for a woman to be the breadwinner of the home. Except in  uncontrollable or unforeseen circumstances, that is not how the creator made it to be.

I may be wrong, but I believe some of us women have become self proclaimed feminists because our men have refused to step up to the table. Ouch! This is however not a post to take a swipe at men in general because truth be told we have men in this country that God is using to wake our  men up to be alive to who God originally created them to be.

At this juncture I must not fail to acknowledge the ministry of men like Fela Durotoye (Gemstone Initiative), Pastor Taiwo Odukoya (Discovery for Men) and even my own pastor Dr Olufemi Paul (Excellence in Life)- whose main thrust of message is centred on excellence and boy, don't we need that in this society of ours where mediocrity thrives? These are a few of God's generals amongst others doing the commendable work of raising a formidable army of responsible men who are men in every sense of the word and not sperm donors or baby daddies. In your own immediate constituency what are you doing as THE man?

Again I ask, ''Where are the men?''